tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post7467904718027551278..comments2023-10-28T02:33:53.953-07:00Comments on Sesame-seed-sized Dreams: Both my babiesHanenhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02490161992949497684noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-77848357955567261352012-07-21T18:51:57.215-07:002012-07-21T18:51:57.215-07:00I love this description of parenthood here - the h...I love this description of parenthood here - the holding onto and supporting an ever changing being, the longing to grasp onto who they are right now. I have moments as a mother, and have had moments as a mother, when I wanted my (living) boy to stop, right where he is, and not go forward anymore while sitting in awe of his being while it changes. It's heartbreaking and awe inspiring all at Suzannehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01955054876521178314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-3725459052897220382012-07-05T10:21:22.278-07:002012-07-05T10:21:22.278-07:00What a beautiful boy! And what a dream. It is crue...What a beautiful boy! And what a dream. It is cruel that you only get to have them both in your dream. It's my great sadness-- to not know how they would've gotten along, to see only the faint outline of what is missing in the dynamic. When I think of the faint outline, I realize how far the ripples go. Even siblings and cousins born after A are missing him, even if they don't know Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09745262857388007041noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-55757719188719618102012-07-03T11:58:09.045-07:002012-07-03T11:58:09.045-07:00He's such a beautiful baby, your Ali. Your dre...He's such a beautiful baby, your Ali. Your dream gave me chills - I was on tenterhooks waiting for the ending and I still feel relieved that you found both of them.ericahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06347057746449071812noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-20536044336761153802012-07-02T20:54:59.587-07:002012-07-02T20:54:59.587-07:00Gorgeous little boy, I am so happy to see him.Gorgeous little boy, I am so happy to see him.Party of 5https://www.blogger.com/profile/13372480335787520223noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-75149603220126143632012-06-29T21:36:59.522-07:002012-06-29T21:36:59.522-07:00Oh goodness, Hanen, what a beautiful post. I nodd...Oh goodness, Hanen, what a beautiful post. I nodded my way through so much of it. You write so eloquently of the joy and pain of parenting after loss. And the dreams of losing the child(ren) - actually losing them, not having them die - I have had a few of those too. I wish I dreamt of Otis more often.<br /><br />Ali is gorgeous. Love that hair. Reminds me of my Otis. <br />Sending you love,sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15316131078833658090noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-44533910868293647082012-06-29T10:17:21.015-07:002012-06-29T10:17:21.015-07:00Oh wow that dream gave mechills and made me tear u...Oh wow that dream gave mechills and made me tear up. I so badly want a dream with Camille in it! I love that you held both of them in your arms, loving them both simultaneously on the tram. I sometimes have the feeling that my baby is just lost, needing to be found. Otis so unfair that you do not have both of your children! <br />Infancy and childhood are such a fleeting time, with too many Renelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08490888250385942221noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-64307190966292429672012-06-29T02:41:57.812-07:002012-06-29T02:41:57.812-07:00He's so gorgeous. What a lovely photograph.
I...He's so gorgeous. What a lovely photograph.<br /><br />I hope that holding them through that other transition counts for something. I feel it must. That we came with them right to the gateway. It was all we could do. I hope they felt that love and I hope that El Prima is right and that the soul stays for a little while longer. And, after that second transition, I felt she had definitely gone.Catherine Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01618295389400457254noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-59714020229911694212012-06-28T15:33:42.689-07:002012-06-28T15:33:42.689-07:00This brought me more comfort that you might ever r...This brought me more comfort that you might ever realise:<br /><br />"I asked El Prima the other day whether she thought Zainab could hear my dad singing her a lullaby when he held her after she was born, and she said, "Yes - the soul hangs around for a while - at least a day - that's why we stay with someone who has died, with their body for the first day." <br /><br />This Hope's Mamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04984543289642681339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-18873800711921133162012-06-28T09:50:07.719-07:002012-06-28T09:50:07.719-07:00Oh yes. I think that (it's a difference not a ...Oh yes. I think that (it's a difference not a better or worse) is one of the things that slightly separates those of us who lose our first or our not firstborns. It was that which hit me immediately, it is there in my first blog posts .... 'we have been robbed' I wrote. I see that thought appear later for others and I ache for that re-emerging of grief for people I care for.<br /><br Merryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06338478486624362745noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8073262119651255587.post-79544298011161178432012-06-28T08:37:16.186-07:002012-06-28T08:37:16.186-07:00What a beautiful, beautiful boy. Oh how seeing hi...What a beautiful, beautiful boy. Oh how seeing his picture and knowing he is safe in your and El Prima's arms makes me so happy. <br /><br />"When I had that thought, it made me cry because I'm only just starting to grasp how much we missed out on with Zainab." I had the exact same experience. I could not look at Clio for the first two weeks of her life without thinking of Breehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03828518213034003921noreply@blogger.com